What is a Hickey or Love Bite
A hickey, kiss mark, love bite is a bruise or bruise like mark caused by the kissing or sucking and a little biting of the skin, when done together these actions cause a burst of the superficial small blood vessels under the skin which result in a red or dark red coloured mark mostly found on the neck or arm.
Why Love bites/Hickeys are given
Well… Sometimes it happens by accident, but personally, I think it’s a way of leaving your mark on the person – kind of like marking your territory – to let other people know that you belong to that person. Actually, contrary to popular belief, I do not think people do it out of insecurity because they want people to see and know that they were with you and that the two of you at least are in Love. It has nothing to do about feeling insecure.
How to give someone a Hickey The Right Way
- The first thing before even attempting to give someone a Hickey is to ask for permission as this is a mark that will be visible if done on places that are not covered. Some people don’t want to get hickey as it can come off as an embarrassing mark. So don’t try to give a hickey without his/her permission. Always ask your partner before giving a hickey.
- Where to give a hickey? If you want to show off the hickey, then the neck is the perfect spot, Not only is it easier to give a hickey there, but it can also be hidden under an appropriate piece of clothing. But then again, you will need to be very selective about where you give the someone a hickey.
- After that, start by lightly kissing and biting that portion of the skin. Small, sensual bites will make it easier for you to give a hickey as it loosens the skin, Suck the skin. The moment of truth has arrived, that of suction. Remember that as with the noble art of suckling, when you surrender to the hickeys you must always keep your teeth out of the way. The suction should last about 20 or 30 seconds to make a mark.
- A full love bite mark doesn’t appear within these 30 seconds. It takes at least 2 minutes for the hickey to show. If you are not satisfied with the darkness of the mark, start sucking on it again.
Now that you know how to give a hickey like you’ve been there and done that, I hope that when you try it out practically, the receiver won’t be disappointed. Practice as they say after all, makes perfect. Just be sure to suggest ways to your partner on how to cover up a hickey should you forget that you aimed for the one area that gets people into trouble – the neck.
Hickey Removal- How to hide a Hickey or Remove them ASAP
Young or old, man or woman, I think we can all agree on one thing: getting a hickey is awesome. It feels incredible, and even though you know you’re going to have to deal with the consequences of a big ugly red mark on your body when it’s over, you just simply can’t say ‘no’.
But walking around with this atrocity isn’t very ideal, is it? In fact, it can be downright embarrassing. It can even cause you to get in to a bit of trouble with parents, bosses, or even teachers!
So what’s a girl to do? We’ve got you covered with 7 great ways to hide a hickey until it’s over.
Turtle Neck Clothing
A turtleneck is probably one of your best options when it comes to hiding a hickey. It keeps your neck completely concealed no matter which way you turn or bend or wiggle, and you won’t have to worry about the turtleneck coming loose or undone or fading throughout the day. However, you need to be sure of two things: you absolutely can NOT wear a turtleneck during the summer, as this screams ‘I have a huge hickey I don’t want anyone to see!’. Another thing, make sure you don’t go buying a turtleneck because you have a hickey, and you’ve never worn a turtleneck before in your life. This is another obvious sign you are trying to hide something and EVERYONE will know.
If turtlenecks aren’t your thing, there’s another great way to hide that hickey: by wearing something with a collar. There are plenty of different garment options out there with high collars that can hide a hickey with ease, whether it’s a cute shirt or a warm jacket.
Just make sure the collar is high enough to conceal your big red blemish from the crowd, and ensure that your collar will hold straight during the day and not bend or ‘come down’, revealing the true reason behind your outfit choice.
Chunky Neck Jewelry
Chokers are really hot right now, so you can use this as a win-win situation when trying to hide that hickey. If your hickey just so happens to be in the perfect place where it can be hidden with a trendy choker, then it’s truly a simple solution. The best part is, it will probably go with your outfit no problem!
For the ladies out there with long hair, you can probably use your lengthy locks to your advantage here. Longer strands can be manipulated and styled to conceal your hickey; you just need to ensure that you don’t move your hair and that it stays in the right place all day so nobody can see your dirty little secret.
Another go-to when it comes to hickey concealing is none other than the scarf! Scarves are typically in your wardrobe for fall and winter seasons already, so wearing your scarf like you would any other day won’t be an issue. However, if you’ve never worn a scarf before in your life you may have an issue with questioning friends and family. Also, NEVER wear a scarf during the summertime! Unless of course….
You buy one of those super thin and silky floral scarves that are made strictly for summer wear.
So, I know this may seem like a bad idea, but it can work if you only use it once a year. Using a super, over-sized bandaid to cover your neck in dire situations is a solution for hickey covering. With this you can make up any kind of story you want. Maybe you got burned by your curling iron, or maybe you got in a fight with your cat and he scraped away at your neck?
There’s a million reasons why you may have a bandaid on your neck, but nobody is going to question you if you don’t do it all the time. No problems!
The absolute best trick in the book is to use makeup to cover up that big problem! But don’t think you can throw on some foundation and call it a day. There is actually a four step process that needs to be fulfilled before you’re hickey-free.
First and foremost, start off with a yellow-based concealer to get rid of all the blue and purple coloring in your ‘bruise’.
Secondly, apply a green concealer to get rid of the red hues.
Thirdly, a good concealer that matches your skin tone or is slightly lighter than your skin tone is necessary.
Last but not least, apply the foundation you use on your face. Make sure to blend this foundation thoroughly and get your edges blended so it looks completely natural.
Your hickey should be completely gone after this- until of course your makeup starts to come off!
Do Hickeys Hurt
hickeys don’t feel pleasurable to everyone. “Hickeys don’t always feel good. For some people they do, for others they find it painful, If you do it find it painful, that could be a sign that hickeys aren’t your thing. Whether you find hickeys pleasurable is really dependent on the person. “It’s just that each person’s different.” But if it is something you want and would like to explore more, you can talk to your bae about the ways you’d prefer to be kissed or given a hickey.
Are Hickeys Dangerous?
Hickeys are definitely not dangerous. Though, there have been some freak accidents caused by hickeys in the past, they are very rare occurrences. Another thing you don’t have to worry about it scarring. Hickeys are bruises and they will go away.
How to give yourself a hickey or How to fake an Hickey
Using A Bottle
This method often produces intense hickeys and you can injure your skin if you do them incorrectly. Be sure to use the bottle on the side of your neck – never near the throat.
Step 1 – Use a plastic 2-liter bottle and squeeze the middle, to force air out. The hickey will be more intense the more air you let out. It’s a good idea to experiment a bit first, by squeezing only a small bit of air out and placing the lip of the bottle against your skin.
Step 2 – Place your bottle flush with the skin, on the SIDE of the neck. Create suction by holding the bottle against the skin for about 15 seconds. Then pull it away quickly. Do this in front of a mirror, to make it easier to see what you’re doing.
Step 3 – You can widen your hickey if you like, by repeating the suction just to the side of the first mark, since the bottle neck is round and hickeys are usually oval in shape.
How long do Hickeys Last?
A hickey can last anywhere from a couple of days to two weeks, depending on the amount of bruising inflicted on the capillaries under the skin. Hickeys heal in the same manner as any other bruise. Over time, they disappear as the blood that pooled in the tissues disperses and is reabsorbed into the body.